When we get into community, all of a sudden, even the most mundane moments in life begin to sparkle with hope for tomorrow. There’s no telling the doors that are being opened every second when we place ourselves in relationship with the right people, in the right place, at the right time. The possibilities for life are endless when we find our tribe.
In case you missed it, before you go any further, make sure to read Get Yourself a Tribe Pt. 1 where we talk about what characteristics to look for in your tribe members!
Less than a year ago, I would say I was tribeless. There were people around me who were there to lift me up, who wanted to be that support I needed, who had everything in place to be my tribe, but I wasn’t tribe-ready myself yet. It wasn’t until I realized that image isn’t everything, that vulnerability is the first step to success, and that these people genuinely love me and want the best for me, that my tribe became real and valuable to me.
It’s funny how our brain (more like the enemy) tells us that the safest thing we can do for ourselves is to shut people out when in fact, just the opposite is true. Walling off feels powerful, but we always end up more hurt in the end.
It’s like a child that wants to jump on the bed. A good mom tells the child to stop jumping on the bed, but a child will often perceive this wisdom as a hindrance to his or her fun. Unless the child recognizes that Mom has his or her best interest at heart, he will keep jumping on the bed until he gets hurt. But a child with a bit more maturity, one who has a healthy relationship with his or her mother, will recognize that Mom is wise, has greater understanding, and has love at the heart of her reprimand.
That’s the difference. When we open ourselves up to a tribe, we trust that others see what we can’t see. By heeding the wisdom of another, we prevent injury even when we don’t fully understand. By surrounding ourselves with people that care, we set ourselves up for success beyond just the moment. When it’s just ourselves, we can often only see what’s right in front of us. A tribe illuminates the bigger picture and picks up the slack where we fall short.
Nonetheless, it’s scary to open ourselves up to people. Life tends to have a way of convincing us that we are better off with me, myself, and I than letting other people in. But I can tell you from experience, that scarier than opening ourselves up to people is choosing to not open ourselves up to people.
Here’s a few reasons why getting a tribe is worth breaking past your fear of vulnerability:
Have you ever heard the African proverb, “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to go far, go together”? It’s a beautiful and oh so very true saying. When we open up our hearts to those people who have those shining characteristics of vulnerability, trust, vision, wisdom, and supportiveness, who are moving in the same direction as us, and who have our best interest at heart, we set ourselves up for success. When we get ourselves a tribe, life regains its luster, hope reignites, and we find ourselves again.