When it comes to self-worth and value, there are two main truths you should know:
- You are lovable
- You are loved
Without believing these two truths about ourselves, we will have trouble understanding our true worth as children of God. In fact, it’s from knowing these truths that our ultimate calling as Christians – to love God and love one another – gains its power!
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When I start to feel off kilter, upset, or even angry, many times it boils down to me losing sight of one or both of those two key truths. When I am able to pause and breathe and remind my heart that I am lovable and am indeed loved, my heart begins to settle. As I set my eyes on God, I find peace amidst whatever challenges I may be facing and am able to walk forward in truth and strength.
The result of not knowing our value
When we don’t believe we are lovable or loved, we become:
- Self-protective and combative
- Depressed and/or lonely
- Self-seeking as we attempt to meet our own needs
- Jealous, often giving way to comparison
- Hidden, as we shove our true selves deeper in
I write this list out of my own life experience. Perhaps you could add others to this list as well.
We all face trauma, neglect, or painful seasons that have done damage to our inner selves. This level of hurt to our self-worth may need be addressed on a deeper scale. If so, professional counseling may be beneficial. I have gone through counseling and would recommend it to anyone who feels they may need help from a professional.
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Often, we lose sight of our value just by virtue of living in a broken world and being human. Day to day life, things people say, and lies that creep in get us down. Before we know it, we’ve let go of a firm and steadfast belief in the source of our value – the love of God.
But when we can grab on to the truths that we are lovable and loved, we are able to walk out the life God has intended for us – one full of joy, peace, strength, power, and, of course, love!
Truth #1: You are Lovable
“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart…”
“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
“Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered….”
Truth #2: You are Loved
“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
“…And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”
“See how very much our Father loves us, for He calls us His children, and that is what we are!…”
The Result of Knowing our Worth and Value
When we begin to rest in the simple truths that God created us lovable and that He loves us deeply, everything else begins to fall into place. We find ourselves looking upon Him and trusting in His love to sustain us. And as we look to God, He fills us so we are overflowing.
As we meditate and rest in His love for us, we are then able to pour out His love onto others. We naturally reflect the light we are resting in. As with all good things, it comes not out of our own effort or works but rather as a natural result of knowing who God is and resting in His goodness and love for us. When we turn our eyes on Him and His faithfulness and love to us, we can’t help but love others well as a result.
“We love because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19